Feeling entitled to your partner’s time—or like they feel entitled to yours—is often a sign of deeper relationship issues. As a couples therapist, I see this dynamic linked to imbalance, resentment, and unmet needs. Here’s what it really means and how to work through it together.

It’s something I call performative calm—on the outside we look composed, but underneath, there’s tightness, frustration, or even resentment. It’s not sustainable, and our kids can feel the disconnect, even if they can’t name it.

Transform Reactivity into Intention: Strengthen Your Relationships with Intentional Parenting and Partner Communication

Learn how to move from reactive behaviors to intentional actions in your relationships. Discover the 6 stages of shifting from reactivity to intention, inspired by therapist Terry Real’s framework, and apply them to both intimate relationships and parenting. Explore practical steps such as becoming aware of your triggers, taking a pause, making intentional choices, and practicing daily habits to foster deeper connections. Strengthen your relationship with your partner and kids by shifting from automatic reactions to thoughtful responses that promote mutual understanding and respect.

The term "help" implies that one person is doing something for the other. It’s transactional. One person asks for help, and the other responds. But what’s missing in this scenario is a sense of shared ownership.

Many people fear divorce because of the potential impact it may have on their children. However, maintaining a strong co-parenting relationship can significantly reduce this negative impact, helping to create a stable and supportive environment for your kids.

The goal is not to force one person to become like the other but to create a balanced space where both emotional needs are acknowledged and respected.

The holiday season can feel like a whirlwind of shopping, cooking, decorating, and managing family dynamics—especially when one partner ends up shouldering the bulk of the work. If you’re looking for a way to level the playing field and share the load this year, the Fair Play system, created by Eve Rodsky, offers a simple yet powerful tool.

Co-regulation is the process of supporting each other’s emotional states, particularly during moments of distress or heightened emotion. Instead of withdrawing, blaming, or becoming defensive, co-regulating couples actively tune into each other, providing calm, reassurance, and understanding.

Let's figure out together how to get on the same page or more importantly how to co-author your family’s book.

Reparenting is the process of providing yourself with the love, support, and guidance that you may not have received during childhood. It acknowledges that many of our emotional challenges and behavioral patterns stem from our early experiences.

While I may not be able to give you all the time you’d like, here are some strategies to delay the argument, with the added benefit that the delay is actually good for them.

What's a Parent to do when their kids are at each other's throats.

The research is clear: children with secure attachments tend to have better emotional regulation, social skills, and resilience. They are also more likely to form healthy relationships in their adult lives.

Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy aims to help couples create a secure emotional bond by addressing and transforming negative patterns of interaction that often lead to relationship distress.

Having children can transform your relationship in profound ways, but it doesn’t mean the romance has to fade.

The division of household labour, which includes everything from cooking and cleaning to managing finances and childcare, is a common area where couples experience conflict.

It can feel so awful when your kid comes home and tells you someone was mean to them. Here is a kid-friendly conversation to have around meanness and a practical strategy to teach kids.

How I respond when I am able to access my most enlightened parenting self.

When parents work on strengthening the parent-child relationship it can help prevent the development of mental health disorders and stress later in life even if the child has been exposed to early traumatic events.

After a long day of school, kindy, daycare, and or work we can all feel a bit tapped out.